"There is no magic cure, no making it all go away forever. There are only small steps upward; an easier day, an unexpected laugh, a mirror that doesn't matter anymore."
- Laurie Halse Anderson
The entire modern world is at a standstill.
Streets are empty.
Playgrounds are eerily quiet.
Music venues are silent.
Sport fields are barren.
Going out in public is a risky adventure.
Alarm clocks are unset.
Dogs enjoy company all day.
Neighbors help neighbors.
Hitting a collective pause button has never happened in our lifetimes. It was inconceivable.
So much was lost when we hit the pause button. Big games, weddings, birthday parties, family vacations, grand openings, anniversary celebrations, graduations, baby showers and countless other special occasions.
When external activities disappear from our calendars, what's left? What are the side-effects of this crisis?
In the midst of a pandemic that has disrupted our daily lives, this is where the magic resides.
We can choose to focus on the moments that matter.
We can embrace the surprising side-effects of our lives on hold. We can graciously accept that aspects of our former lives will undergo a transformation beyond our control. We can linger in the unknowing of when our new normal might begin. This pandemic will pass. We will all have new beginnings. There is no going back.
Embrace the magic because we'll never have this time again.
Oriental medicine provides a holistic approach to healing from a broken heart. Symptoms of a "broken heart" can manifest as difficulty sleeping, depression, anxiety, poor appetite or overeating, inability to focus, acne, asthma, tight muscles and soreness, TMJ, sciatica, headaches, migraines, heartburn, constipation or diarrhea, uterine fibroids, endometriosis, and more.
Indigo Healing Acupuncture offers a comprehensive 12 week program to help you process the end of your marriage and reclaim a new vibrant life.
This customized package includes acupuncture, Chinese herbs, traditional fire cupping/gua sha, and self-care suggestions to boost your Qi and bring forgiveness & hope back into your life. This program is offered on a limited basis and a pre-consultation by phone is required.
Contact Michelle to learn more about this one-of-a-kind Holistic Divorce Recovery program.
Miscarriage = A difficult word to say out loud. The word feels heavy, laden with the weight of grief, sadness, pain, and shame. Sadly, it’s not an uncommon occurrence… statistics tell us 1 in 4 women will have a miscarriage in their lifetime. I’ve had two & I know many women who’ve had more. Miscarriage is always a significant loss. There is no quick fix for recovery and every mother walks a unique path to acceptance and healing.
So, how can you get through it? Here are 3 steps towards healing after miscarriage:
The hardest thing after my miscarriages was breathing. That may sound weird, but it took a conscious effort to breathe through the grief. In Chinese Medicine, grief is the emotion of the Metal Element. The Metal Element corresponds to the Lungs. When grief attacks the Lungs, it can be physically hard to breathe as the chest tightens and constricts. To help you (and your Lungs) process the grief, consciously take a deep healing breath, in through your nose, expanding down to your diaphragm, and out through your mouth. Repeat a few times until you feel grief relax its cool grip. It can help to imagine breathing in white healing light and breathing out clouds of gray sadness.
Self-care Tip: There is a point on the Lung channel named "Broken Sequence"... it is a powerful point to release grief. Massage and press the point to help your body process feelings of grief and sadness.
2. Express your thoughts
Miscarriage is an incredibly lonely and isolating experience. It doesn’t matter how long you were a mother, nothing can replace the loss of the life inside you and very few people will understand what it feels like. Your partner may be sad too, but there is no denying that your sense of loss will be stronger and last longer. To process grief, all of the emotions (sadness, anxiety, fear, shame, worry, guilt) must be physically released. Here are some ideas on how to let those emotions go:
3. Allow time to heal
If you can, escape from work and daily obligations. Take 2-3 days to live in your pajamas, feel the pain & loss, cry uncontrollably, and heal. If you can’t take time away, schedule an hour into your day to process the grief by expressing your emotions. Crying in the shower is good too!
Recovering from miscarriage is often the loneliest journey, but it doesn’t need to be that way.
If you need help, let friends or family know what you’re going through and ask for their support. Reach out to a local acupuncturist to holistically heal your mind-body-spirit.
Once you open up about your loss, you'll be surprised how many women will share that they've had one too. Miscarriage is a common secret there is no reason to keep.
Dr. Michelle Wendt, L.Ac., DACM
Dr. Michelle Wendt, L.Ac., DACM practices Holistic & Chinese Medicine in Hawaii and Texas.